I started the long journey of my own healing and along the way I discovered the MM podcast. I was a regular listener but when I decided to join the MD online group I didn’t expect to have an instant connection with a group of women that were technically strangers. I have never had more in common with a group of women and for the first time I feel like a part of myself has the ability to heal out in the daylight, free of explanation, justification or judgement. I am so grateful to this group for all it has given me but also the bonds I will have because of it. Probably one of the best things I have given myself ever.

I have had a difficult relationship with my mother my entire life. I knew nothing about Narcissistic people or the psychology of it. I just always knew she didn’t like me. It affected all aspects of my personality and behavior. I wish I would have found Heather earlier. I have been in therapy my whole adult life. The community that Heather has formed and fostered is invaluable. I anticipate her podcast every week. I am so grateful I stumbled upon this community. It has helped to inspire and influence me. Thank you.

One thing I found here that I haven’t found anywhere else is that you all understand. Even though our experiences may differ a little, all of us can relate. I have never felt so validated. Normally when I have tried to explain my experiences I received the typical response that “she is your mom, she’s not perfect, she loves you, it couldn’t have been that bad”, or my favorite from a friend – “see your mom isn’t that bad compared to what my mom did to me”. It is bittersweet knowing you understand.

I find the spaces you have built for Mayhem Daughters so powerful: not only do they increase my understanding of myself and my own behavior – with too many “A ha” moments to count! – but more importantly, you provide practical and doable tips on how to do things differently. And THEN, you provide a safe space where we can try new and terrifying-to-us things, blunder about, make mistakes, take left turns at – all while being held, seen, supported, and loved. It’s this magical combination of knowledge and practice that makes these spaces so powerful.

If you are searching for understanding and clarity about the effects of narcissistic abuse and are desperate for a soft, safe place to land, to learn and heal and feel seen… then you’ve found the right place. Heather is not only an amazingly insightful and gifted therapist, she is also an incredibly warm-hearted, compassionate and authentic human being. Here you can feel safe despite your anxiety, be seen despite feeling so small, and you will always be heard, believed and supported. I truly feel my deepest mother wounds are slowly beginning to heal and I can’t thank Heather enough for helping to light the way.