Where to Begin & Where to Go Deeper
Topic-focused Podcast Episodes
Whether you’re just starting or looking to deepen your healing, here’s how to make the most of the Mother Mayhem podcast.
First Thing’s First:
I strongly encourage you to listen to the first 8 episodes in order. They offer you a framework for healing that will help you name and understand your experience and then begin the building blocks of learning what to do about it.
This isn’t just information. It’s a steady, clear foundation for your healing journey.
These first eight episodes walk you through:
- What narcissistic abuse really is—and how it shows up in your story.
- Why having a narcissistic or emotionally limited parent is a form of childhood trauma.
- How trauma impacts your nervous system, relationships, and sense of self.
- The roots of people-pleasing and perfectionism.
- How to begin boundary work, calm your triggers, and reclaim your voice.
Ready to Go Deeper?
Once you’ve listened to the first eight episodes, you might notice yourself craving more clarity, more tools, or more support.
These hand-picked episodes go deeper into the core healing work: boundaries, grief, adult relationships, nervous system healing, and rediscovering who you are—beyond what your mother told you.
There’s no “right” order to this part. Start where it hurts or where it sparks curiosity. I’m in it with you, regardless.
Narcissistic Dynamics & Family Roles
10. The Covert Narcissist: The Narcissist You Didn't See Coming
Explore the subtle and manipulative behaviors of covert narcissistic mothers—how they invalidate, gaslight, and cross emotional boundaries while flying under the radar. Learn how to recognize the damage done and begin reclaiming your voice, boundaries, and identity.
15. Enabling Father: An Additional Trauma for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Learn how an enabling father compounds the narcissistic abuse experience. We explore the emotional cost, and I share common-sense strategies for boundary setting, reparenting, and healing from perfectionism.
24. Responding with Resilience: How to Handle Narcissistic Attacks
When trauma brain wants to fight, flee, or freeze—Wise Mind can step in. Learn how to respond with calm, assertive clarity when your mom attacks or manipulates you.
84. When Your Mom Is Just Emotionally Limited
Not every mother is overtly narcissistic—but the pain of emotional unavailability is real. This episode walks you through how to accept her limitations, protect your peace, and make empowered decisions about how to relate to her.
Healing in Motherhood
59. Mothering When You’re the Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother — Part 1
Explore how your childhood wounds show up in your parenting and how to begin healing so you can break the cycle. Vulnerable, powerful, and filled with insights for mothers doing the hard work.
60. Mothering When You’re the Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother — Part 2
What do you do when you make your child feel bad—or when their big feelings trigger you? We explore how to recover from missteps and stay grounded in repair and connection.
Love, Empathy & Identity
11. Stop Gaslighting Yourself & Embrace Your Truth
That voice in your head that questions everything? It might be self-gaslighting. Learn how to interrupt those patterns, reclaim your truth, and move forward with grounded clarity.
34. Choosing Wisely: A Heartwise Blueprint for Finding Healthy Love After Neglect
It’s not about having a broken “picker”—it’s about learning to recognize what healthy love actually looks and feels like. Here’s how to reconnect with your own wisdom.
77. From Trauma to Tenderness: How to Love the People Who Love You
If no one taught you how to give and receive care, this episode helps. Learn how to shift from trauma reactions to loving connection—with others and with yourself.
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